1: why cant hmong parents understand that their daughters can have guys as friends too?

2: what's so wrong about going out and coming home before 12 am?

3: what's the point of forcing their daughter to marry a guy that isn't even her boyfriend?

4: can't they ever give their daughter a chance to do what ever she wants just for a day?

5: why would force marrying their daughter to a close relative ever be a good idea?

6: what's so good about being a good daughter and just being treated as a stranger who the parents roll their eyes at, and give dirty looks to?

7: why cant they ever understand?

[sub][sub][sub][sub]NOW... THESE ARE JUST MY OPINIONS AND ANSWERS TO MY OWN QUESTIONS, BEING ASKED, FEEL FREE TO ANSWER THEM DIFFERENTLY IF YOU LIKE [/sub][/sub][/sub][/sub]

1: why cant hmong parents understand that their daughters can have guys as friends too? FOR ME... MY PARENTS ASSUME THAT EVERY GUY I AM FRIENDS WITH ARE MY BOYFRIEND.... GUH... WTHCK....

2: what's so wrong about going out and coming home before 12 am? LAME... I WONT COME HOME PREGO! I PROMISE YOU THAT! HAHA

3: what's the point of forcing their daughter to marry a guy that isn't even her boyfriend? THE POINT IS... THEY FUNNAH DO THAT CUS THEY WANT HER OUT OF THE HOUSE AS FAST AS THEY CAN

4: can't they ever give their daughter a chance to do what ever she wants just for a day? NO.. NOT IF THEY WANT HER TO BE THE GOODY ONE AND JUST LET HER BBE AT HOME SO THAT SHE CAN GET MARRY

5: would force marrying their daughter to a close relative ever be a good idea?
NO.. IT IS NOT SO GOOD AND SHOULDNT BE DONE AT ALL....

6: what's so good about being a good daughter and just being treated as a stranger who the parents roll their eyes at, and give dirty looks to? ITS NOT SO GOOD BUT THEN IT WILL MAKE THE TWO FAMILIES E CLOSER, LOVING OR HATING ON ONE ANOTHER... BUT I THINK THAT IT ALL REALLY DEPENDS ON WHO THE PEOPLE ARE

7: why cant they ever understand? BECAUSE MOST PARENTS CANT UNDERSTAND.. ITS THE WAY OF HOW THEY GREW UP, EX: MY PARENTS... THEY REALLY STRICT

[quote="Pa Kou Moua" post=468]1: why cant hmong parents understand that their daughters can have guys as friends too?

2: what's so wrong about going out and coming home before 12 am?

3: what's the point of forcing their daughter to marry a guy that isn't even her boyfriend?

4: can't they ever give their daughter a chance to do what ever she wants just for a day?

5: why would force marrying their daughter to a close relative ever be a good idea?

6: what's so good about being a good daughter and just being treated as a stranger who the parents roll their eyes at, and give dirty looks to?

7: why cant they ever understand?

[sub][sub][sub][sub]NOW... THESE ARE JUST MY OPINIONS AND ANSWERS TO MY OWN QUESTIONS, BEING ASKED, FEEL FREE TO ANSWER THEM DIFFERENTLY IF YOU LIKE [/sub][/sub][/sub][/sub]

1.Yeah i can agree with this one. But us Hmong dudes get assumed the same thing, "Oh is that your new girlfriend?" haha but you gotta realize, if you were dating someone and you saw him walking around with a girl you didnt know, you'd say he was cheating.. well some girls haha. People just assume things too much.

2.Past 11 there are some crazy people out there. I usually cruise the strip til then and come home. Drunk drivers and all of that etc etc. Dont want my baby to get hit by some intoxicated asshole. Plus a girl whos home early, and up early in the morning looks better than a girl who comes home early and gets up hella late!

3.Well they "assume" the dude did something to the girl. So its either pay and go home, or pay and go home with the girl. Its just a way of making money haha.

4.You can do whatever you want when you grow up. but for now do as your parents say, need to learn how to be "wifey" material ha.

5.Marrying someone that is close is better. You know their backgroung, you know if they are good or bad people. And if divorce ever comes into mind, well are you not embarassed enough to go through with it. Hmong couples last longer because of this. Americans divorce whenever.

6.I wouldnt know. Im not a daughter ha. But "wifey" material?

7.They cant understand, or you cant understand/realize?

No intentions to hurt feelings, just my opinion. Im first generation here, but i beleive in our hmong people's rules and ways of life. Good subject by the way (:

Good Girls Get To Go To Heaven, and Bad Girls Get To go where Ever They Want.

1: why cant hmong parents understand that their daughters can have guys as friends too?

They do understand for the most part that their daughters can have guy friends, they just want their daughters to be cautious and don't turn into a hoe. Plus you never know when a "guy friend" will turn into a boyfriend.


2: what's so wrong about going out and coming home before 12 am?

Ogs have dirty minds, they just want their daughters home before mid night. Plus their daughter is still their child, they care and worry about their daughters safety.


3: what's the point of forcing their daughter to marry a guy that isn't even her boyfriend?

Some ogs assume that the guy slept with their daughters so therefore must force marriage. It sounds logical except for the force marriage part.


4: can't they ever give their daughter a chance to do what ever she wants just for a day?

I would assume that most daughters do get to do what they want that is just my opinion


5: why would force marrying their daughter to a close relative ever be a good idea?

I actually don't think that is a good idea, lol hummm...thats consider incest!


6: what's so good about being a good daughter and just being treated as a stranger who the parents roll their eyes at, and give dirty looks to?

obviously, the daughter must have done something wrong for their parents to be giving them looks like that. Being a good daughter is always good because the parents will be proud of their child when they get older. Now parents are weird because they don't like admitting it to their kids but they they have been bragging to other people.

7: why cant they ever understand?

Most of the time they do understand, but the real question is do you understand them.

ye.. i believe it too but.. parents gottah understand...

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not in my position... its a total different story.. and yes,... i do understand them.. what i dont understand.. is.. why me?!?! always me?!?! and why cant they understand me?






but guys wouldnt understand cus parents let their sons do whatever they want